Dear Men: Stop Backpedaling Your Beliefs When It Gets You Dumped
The truth is, she genuinely did want to find a husband, but like many other women these days, she feels like she can’t trust men anymore. The final straw was a date that went well until a conversation stopped it in its tracks.
The date with a guy we’ll call Cassius* was going well. There was a spark. He seemed like a great man and while he didn’t want to talk politics for some reason, she was willing to overlook that yellow flag until they met in person.
“What are your thoughts on the Danny Masterson case?” she asked him.
Cassius rolled his eyes, “Those women knew what they were getting into. It’s Hollywood, so chances are they’re just whining because he didn’t commit to them or they want some fame. If they didn’t want to get raped, they shouldn’t have taken a drink from him.”
What Cassius didn’t know is that Katie had been raped before. This was insanely offensive to her. She got up and left the date immediately, excusing herself “to the bathroom” to do so.
When Cassius realized she was leaving, he tried to stop her and backpedaled on what he said. He tried to rationalize it (“It’s not like other women!”), then assured her that it was “not their fault.”
She continued to her car, asking the restaurant’s waiters to help escort her out. He then texted her that she was “throwing away a promising relationship” over “a big misunderstanding.”
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